{"id":3895,"date":"2023-09-06T03:40:56","date_gmt":"2023-09-05T21:40:56","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.giaoly.org\/vn\/?p=3895"},"modified":"2023-06-18T18:45:10","modified_gmt":"2023-06-18T12:45:10","slug":"vi%e1%bb%87c-s%e1%bb%ada-l%e1%bb%97i-trong-c%e1%bb%99ng-doan","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.giaoly.org\/vn\/vi%e1%bb%87c-s%e1%bb%ada-l%e1%bb%97i-trong-c%e1%bb%99ng-doan\/","title":{"rendered":"Vi\u1ec7c S\u1eeda L\u1ed7i Trong C\u1ed9ng \u0110o\u00e0n"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>C\u00f3 ai trong ch\u00fang ta d\u00e1m cho m\u00ecnh l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u1eadp t\u00f2an kh\u00f4ng? Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 l\u01b0\u01a1ng tri ch\u1eafc kh\u00f4ng ai d\u00e1m kh\u1eb3ng \u0111\u1ecbnh nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf v\u00ec \u0111\u1eb7c t\u00ednh n\u00e0y ch\u1ec9 d\u00e0nh ri\u00eang cho Thi\u00ean Ch\u00faa l\u00e0 \u0110\u1ea5ng th\u00e1nh thi\u1ec7n tuy\u1ec7t \u0111\u1ed1i. \u00dd th\u1ee9c v\u1ec1 th\u00e2n ph\u1eadn th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf c\u1ee7a con ng\u01b0\u1eddi, Elbert Hubbard \u0111\u00e3 ph\u00e1t bi\u1ec3u r\u1ea5t x\u00e1c \u0111\u00e1ng:\u201dNg\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0o c\u0169ng l\u00e0 k\u1ebb ch\u00ed ngu \u00edt ra trong n\u0103m ph\u00fat m\u1ed7i ng\u00e0y. B\u1eadc th\u00e1nh hi\u1ec1n l\u00e0 k\u1ebb c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng v\u00e0 th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng trong s\u1ef1 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00e1i ngu c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua th\u1eddi h\u1ea1n \u1ea5y\u201d. Nh\u01b0 v\u1eady, sai l\u1ed7i v\u00e0 l\u1ea7m l\u1ed7i l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t th\u1ef1c tr\u1ea1ng c\u1ee7a con ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i, trong c\u1ed9ng \u0111\u00f2an. V\u00e0 n\u1ebfu \u0111\u00e3 sai l\u1ed7i th\u00ec c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1eeda l\u1ed7i \u0111\u1ec3 tr\u1edf n\u00ean t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n.<\/p>\n

Th\u1ef1c ra, s\u1eeda l\u1ed7i cho nhau l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m c\u1ee7a m\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong c\u1ed9ng \u0111\u00f2an, ch\u1ee9 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c t\u00f9y \u00fd hay ch\u1ec9 d\u00e0nh cho nh\u1eefng ai c\u00f3 th\u1ea9m quy\u1ec1n. B\u1edfi v\u00ec l\u1ed7i l\u1ea7m c\u1ee7a c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng tai h\u1ea1i \u0111\u1ebfn \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng chung v\u00e0 g\u00e2y s\u1ee9t m\u1ebb t\u00ecnh \u0111\u00f2an k\u1ebft gi\u1eefa c\u00e1c th\u00e0nh ph\u1ea7n. H\u01a1n n\u1eefa, m\u1ed9t c\u1ed9ng \u0111\u00f2an kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd g\u1ed3m t\u00f2an nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u1ed1t l\u00e0nh th\u00e1nh thi\u1ec7n c\u1ea3, tr\u00e1i l\u1ea1i, v\u1eabn c\u00f2n nh\u1eefng ph\u1ea7n t\u1eed b\u1ea5t h\u1ea3o, c\u1ed1 ch\u1ea5p, l\u1ea7m l\u1ea1c. V\u1eady ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u1ed1i x\u1eed th\u1ebf n\u00e0o \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 l\u1ed7i?<\/p>\n

Trong b\u00e0i Tin m\u1eebng h\u00f4m nay, Ch\u00faa Gi\u00easu \u0111\u00e3 n\u00f3i l\u00ean nhu c\u1ea7u ph\u1ea3i s\u1eeda l\u1ed7i cho nhau theo ba b\u01b0\u1edbc: t\u1eeb s\u1eeda l\u1ed7i gi\u1eefa hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi, t\u1edbi vi\u1ec7c c\u1ea7n c\u00f3 2, 3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u00e0m ch\u1ee9ng, v\u00e0 sau c\u00f9ng \u0111\u01b0a ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u1ea5y ra tr\u01b0\u1edbc m\u1eb7t H\u1ed9i th\u00e1nh. Tuy nhi\u00ean, trong b\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 h\u00f2an c\u1ea3nh n\u00e0o, ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta ph\u1ea3i gi\u1eef tinh th\u1ea7n b\u00e1c \u00e1i huynh \u0111\u1ec7, m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch gi\u00fap ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 l\u1ed7i \u00fd th\u1ee9c v\u1ec1 sai l\u1ea7m c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh m\u00e0 s\u1eeda \u0111\u1ed5i. Th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 trong khi s\u1eeda l\u1ed7i l\u00e0 lu\u00f4n ph\u1ea3i y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng, k\u00ednh tr\u1ecdng v\u00e0 c\u1ea7u nguy\u1ec7n cho h\u1ecd.<\/p>\n

I. M\u1eccI NG\u01af\u1edcI \u0110\u1ec0U SAI L\u1ed6I<\/strong><\/p>\n

1. L\u1eddi kh\u1eb3ng \u0111\u1ecbnh<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta th\u01b0\u1eddng n\u00f3i:\u201dNh\u00e2n v\u00f4 th\u1eadp to\u00e0n\u201d: Kh\u00f4ng ai d\u00e1m b\u1ea3o m\u00ecnh l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 l\u1ed7i, kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng sai ph\u1ea1m trong \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng th\u01b0\u1eddng ng\u00e0y. Th\u00e1nh nh\u00e2n c\u0169ng ph\u1ea3i nh\u1eadn l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 l\u1ed7i. Ch\u00ednh v\u00ec v\u1eady m\u00e0 \u00f4ng Elbert Hubbard \u0111\u00e3 n\u00f3i:\u201d Ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0o c\u0169ng l\u00e0 k\u1ebb ch\u00ed ngu \u00edt ra trong n\u0103m ph\u00fat m\u1ed7i ng\u00e0y. B\u1eadc th\u00e1nh nh\u00e2n l\u00e0 k\u1ebb c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng v\u00e0 th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng trong s\u1ef1 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00e1i ngu c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua th\u1eddi h\u1ea1n \u1ea5y\u201d.<\/p>\n

Th\u00e1nh Gioan t\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ed3 kh\u1eb3ng \u0111\u1ecbnh:\u201dAi n\u00f3i m\u00ecnh kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 t\u1ed9i, \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 k\u1ebb n\u00f3i d\u1ed1i v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt kh\u00f4ng \u1edf trong h\u1ecd\u201d (Ga 1Ga 1,10). Th\u00e1nh Phaol\u00f4 t\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ed3 c\u0169ng n\u00f3i t\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u1ef1:\u201dT\u00f4i \u0103n \u1edf nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi ngu, c\u00f2n s\u1ef1 l\u1ea7m l\u1ea1c c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i th\u00ec v\u00f4 k\u1ec3\u201d (Ep 4,11).<\/p>\n

2. T\u1eeb ch\u1ed1i nh\u1eadn l\u1ed7i<\/strong><\/p>\n

Tuy bi\u1ebft m\u00ecnh c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u l\u1ed7i l\u1ea7m nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng m\u1ea5y khi th\u00e0nh th\u1eadt nh\u1eadn l\u1ed7i b\u1edfi v\u00ec t\u00ednh t\u01b0 \u00e1i d\u00e2ng cao khi\u1ebfn ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta ch\u1ed1i b\u1ecf l\u1ea7m l\u1ed7i c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 khi ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta nh\u1eafc \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u1eefng l\u1ed7i l\u1ea7m \u1ea5y. \u0110\u00e2y ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 ch\u1ee9ng b\u1ec7nh gia truy\u1ec1n, t\u1eeb \u0111\u1eddi Nguy\u00ean T\u1ed5. \u00d4ng b\u00e0 Nguy\u00ean T\u1ed5 \u0111\u00e3 ph\u1ea3n b\u1ed9i Ch\u00faa. Nh\u01b0ng khi Ng\u00e0i ng\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ebfn h\u1ecfi \u00f4ng, th\u00ec \u00f4ng n\u00f3i:<\/p>\n

–\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 L\u1ed7i l\u00e0 do b\u00e0 \u1ea5y.<\/p>\n

H\u1ecfi b\u00e0, b\u00e0 n\u00f3i:<\/p>\n

–\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 L\u1ed7i l\u00e0 do con r\u1eafn \u1ea5y.<\/p>\n

\u00d4ng c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 b\u00e0, b\u00e0 c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 \u00f4ng, kh\u00f4ng ai ch\u1ecbu nh\u1eadn tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m c\u1ea3.<\/p>\n

Ph\u1ea3i chi ngay l\u00fac b\u1ea5y gi\u1edd, hai \u00f4ng b\u00e0 bi\u1ebft u\u1ed1n \u0111\u1ea7u g\u1ed1i xu\u1ed1ng \u0111\u1ea5t, c\u00f3 l\u1ebd Thi\u00ean Ch\u00faa ch\u01b0a h\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ed5 v\u01b0\u1eddn \u0111\u1ecba \u0111\u00e0ng \u0111i v\u00e0 nh\u00e2n lo\u1ea1i s\u1ebd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c tho\u00e1t c\u1ea3nh l\u1ea7m than \u0111i\u00eau \u0111\u1ee9ng.<\/p>\n

Truy\u1ec7n<\/span><\/em><\/strong>: Kh\u00f4ng nh\u1eadn l\u1ed7i<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Dale Carnegie n\u1ed5i ti\u1ebfng v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng s\u00e1ch h\u1ecdc l\u00e0m ng\u01b0\u1eddi, \u0111\u00e3 vi\u1ebft:\u201dT\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 ph\u1ea3i ph\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ea5u g\u1ea7n m\u1ed9t ph\u1ea7n ba th\u1ebf k\u1ef7 m\u1edbi th\u1ea5y \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u00e1nh s\u00e1ng ch\u00e2n l\u00fd n\u00e0y: d\u00f9 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta c\u00f3 l\u1ed7i n\u1eb7ng \u0111\u1ebfn \u0111\u00e2u, th\u00ec trong 100 l\u1ea7n t\u1edbi 99 l\u1ea7n ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta t\u1ef1 cho m\u00ecnh l\u00e0 v\u00f4 t\u1ed9i\u201d.<\/p>\n

B\u00e0 \u0111\u00e3 k\u1ec3 tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p v\u1ec1 ba t\u00ean \u0111\u1ea7u \u0111\u1ea3ng b\u1ecdn c\u01b0\u1edbp n\u1ed5i ti\u1ebfng nh\u1ea5t n\u01b0\u1edbc M\u1ef9: Crowley, Capone v\u00e0 Schultz.<\/p>\n

Crowley gi\u1ebft ng\u01b0\u1eddi nh\u01b0 ng\u00f3e m\u00e0 v\u1eabn n\u00f3i:\u201dD\u01b0\u1edbi l\u1edbp \u00e1o n\u00e0y, tr\u00e1i tim ta \u0111\u1eadp ch\u00e1n ng\u00e1n, nh\u01b0ng th\u01b0\u01a1ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n l\u00e0m h\u1ea1i ai\u201c.<\/p>\n

Capone \u0111\u00e3 t\u1ef1 tuy\u00ean b\u1ed1:\u201dTa d\u00f9ng nh\u1eefng n\u0103m t\u01b0\u01a1i \u0111\u1eb9p nh\u1ea5t trong \u0111\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec3 mua vui cho thi\u00ean h\u1ea1. V\u1eady m\u00e0 ph\u1ea7n th\u01b0\u1edfng ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 b\u1ecb ch\u1eedi, b\u1ecb s\u0103n b\u1eaft nh\u01b0 th\u00fa d\u1eef\u201d.<\/p>\n

Schultz \u0111\u00e3 t\u1ef1 m\u00e3n khoe m\u00ecnh v\u1edbi k\u00fd gi\u1ea3:\u201dTa l\u00e0 \u00e2n nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a thi\u00ean h\u1ea1\u201d(Dale Carnegie, \u0110\u1eafc nh\u00e2n t\u00e2m, tr 33-3).<\/em><\/p>\n

II. NHU C\u1ea6U PH\u1ea2I S\u1eecA L\u1ed6I<\/strong><\/p>\n

Tr\u01b0\u1edbc h\u1ebft s\u1ef1 s\u1eeda l\u1ed7i cho nhau l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m c\u1ee7a m\u1ee1i ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong c\u1ed9ng do\u00e0n, ch\u1ee9 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c t\u00f9y \u00fd hay ch\u1ec9 d\u00e0nh cho nh\u1eefng ai c\u00f3 th\u1ea9m quy\u1ec1n. B\u1edfi v\u00ec l\u1ea7m l\u1ed7i c\u1ee7a c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng tai h\u1ea1i \u0111\u1ebfn \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng chung v\u00e0 g\u00e2y s\u1ee9t m\u1ebb t\u00ecnh \u0111o\u00e0n k\u1ebft li\u00ean \u0111\u1edbi gi\u1eefa c\u00e1c th\u00e0nh ph\u1ea7n . H\u01a1n n\u1eefa, m\u1ed9t c\u1ed9ng \u0111o\u00e0n kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd g\u1ed3m to\u00e0n nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u1ed1t l\u00e0nh th\u00e1nh thi\u1ec7n c\u1ea3, tr\u00e1i l\u1ea1i v\u1eabn c\u00f2n nh\u1eefng ph\u1ea7n t\u1eed b\u1ea5t h\u1ea3o c\u1ed1 ch\u1ea5p, l\u1ea7m l\u1ea1c.<\/p>\n

Trong c\u00e1ch s\u1eeda l\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta hay n\u00f3i:\u201dY\u00eau con cho roi cho v\u1ecdt, gh\u00e9t con cho ng\u1ecdt cho b\u00f9i\u201d(T\u1ee5c ng\u1eef). Ch\u00fang ta ngh\u0129 th\u1ebf n\u00e0o trong vi\u1ec7c s\u1eeda l\u1ed7i theo c\u00e2u t\u1ee5c ng\u1eef n\u00e0y?<\/p>\n